Blog: Toby Howell

Blog: Toby Howell

Being Stuck

There are 3 basic defense response:


They're automatic when unresolved experiences are triggered. Most often we cannot resolve them alone. When triggered the take over and through us off.

I can help clients be free of them.

Toby D. Howell, the mental health therapist.



Now is all that we have and all we ever truly know.

Now manifests itself differently as time goes by; nevertheless, it is always now.

Now, and only now, is the moment we can appreciate what we experience.

Now is the ONLY moment we can act.

At Deptherapy, you are empowered to experience and develop mastery with being effective with all that influences and affects you in the here and now, such that you experience having choice, realizing your full potential, and knowing yourself to be the you that you want to be in your life now.

Congratulations for making it to now. 

Suppressing the Past

I was told it again yesterday, “People just need to get over their past”. Yea. Right. Except, it just does not work that way. That which is suppressed doesn’t go. It grows.

Come to Deptherapy.

Here instead of trying to avoid and not to think of disruptive past experiences, you will experience resolving traumatic activation that accompany them, and find new meaning within them and practices to transcend them.

Americans Are Over Medicated

I apologize for missing the last post. I blame it on being on vacation. It is my intention to set up systems so that I do not miss a post again. My name is Toby D. Howell. I am the Head Therapist with Deptherapy; where we Empower Choice by Raising Awareness. For Unregulated Anxiety and Depressive Mood States, we Americans are over medicated! Instead popping pills to suppress symptoms, come to Deptherapy. We can resolve the underlying conditions. Do You Know Anyone Who Is Over Medicated? Contact me, I Can Help.

You Do The Best You Can In Every Situation

Do you blame yourself for being weak, not being good enough, or being selfish? Do you think that you could have done things differently; that is to say, if you just would have work harder, made different choices, or had a different frame of mind; you would have the experience of life that you should? I am Here. I say that you couldn’t have done anything differently. I am here to say you did the best you could do in every situation. Think about it there are so many things affecting us all of the time. Those things influence every action, behavior, and choice in every moment In multitude of ways. So So consider it, you did the best you could have done. What now? You could come to Deptherapy, distinguish those things that are influencing and limiting your experience of life now. Here you come to realize the difference self-understanding, which includes the ways different patterns and responses direct you in life, can make in your life. Choices become available that were not apparent before.


This is my first post of the Deptherapy biweekly blog. Starting in the Here and Now Everything, I mean everything, that happened in the past happened the way it had to happen. It could not have happened any other way. Wish as you may. Wish as you might. The past happened the way it had to. We know this to be true because it happened the way it did. Accept it and the question becomes what now. What do you want? What lights you up? What action is calling to you to be taken now?

Get to Know Deptherapy


A Composited Therapeutic Practice of:

          Existential Humanistic Mental Health


      Interpersonal Neuro-biology

Toby D. Howell Helping Adults and Teens move from Obstacles and Problems to Realize Their Full Self-Potential.

Let's get to Experiences of Life You Love